Author: Ari Shvat

  • ADORNMENT and Jewelry cont’d

    Rabbi, thank you so much.
    But why did the English Bible say they put off their Jewelries instead of head crown? Its confusing
    2- why did God tell Rachel to take off her Jewelries in Gen. 35:1-4, if it’s not forbidden?

    There are two different stages, one was the sin where they took off their jewelry (nose rings and earrings) to give to make the Golden Calf (Ex. 32, 3), and the other was the punishment (!), where they were told to take off their crown (Rashi’s traditional translation, in Hebrew: “adi”, Ex. 33, 4-6). There are those who explain that this may include other adornments, as well, but all agree that they removed them temporarily (!) as a sign of mourning, as Jewish mourners do to this day, removing their jewelry for 7 days after the death of one of the 7 close relatives, and annually on Tish’a b’Av, the date commemorating the destruction of the Temple 1,943 years ago. This is temporary (!) removal of jewelry at specific times of sadness and/or punishment. This is clear from the fact that just 2 chapters later, Israel donates some of their jewelry to build the Tabernacle (35, 22). Again, they wore jewelry to beautify themselves for their husbands in general, and especially on the Sabbath (Saturday) and holidays, and not only is there nothing wrong with that, but as we see in the sources I brought in the previous answer, it’s commendable and was the non-stop Jewish custom and tradition, until this very day.
    2. Regarding Jacob, he told his household (not just Rachel) to remove all idolatry as they returned to the Land of Israel, including the jewelry spoils of the city of Shchem, which often were used for idolatry, and as archeologists found, often contained the shape of local idols.
    With Love of Israel,
    Rabbi Ari Shvat

  • Where is Miriam’s Punishment and Mourning?

    My chavruta and I are studying the parsha of the week, and something that keeps coming up is Miriam. We don’t seem to say much about her, why she was not destined to entire the land and why she was hardly mourned. If you could share some light on these matters, I would be most grateful

    Shalom. Just about that entire generation, aside from Joshua and Calev didn’t enter the Land of Israel, so Miriam was included together with everyone else, and it wasn’t necessarily a punishment. Similarly, the Ralbag feels that just as Aharon didn’t sin at Mei Meriva, nevertheless he was punished with Moshe, so too regarding Miriam, that there was a general decree (some say even before Mei Meriva, Sefer Birkat Yizchak) towards the three siblings who comprised the “old guard” of leadership, that a new leadership will lead Israel into the Land. R. Neventzahl suggests that Miriam’s slandering Moshe should have served as a lesson to the spies not to slander (Eretz Yisrael). Therefore, even though there’s no comparison between the severity of the two actions, her sin is somewhat similar to theirs, so just as the spies were punished not to enter the Land, so was Miriam.
    The Talmud (Baba Batra 17a) recounts that Miriam was one of 6 who didn’t die regularly, but were blessed with “a kiss of death”, like Moshe and Aharon, but the Torah doesn’t go into detail of her death, for reasons of modesty (“kissing” a woman has connotations). National mourning for Miriam isn’t mentioned, perhaps because it’s reserved for the few top select national leaders. Alternatively, the natural modesty of our mothers brings them to prefer staying out of the limelight, which is considered a great trait, and she (or God) may have accordingly requested to have a more private mourning.
    With Love of Israel, Rav Ari Shvat

  • Mechitza- Lady in Wheel-Chair in Men’s Section

    In the shul where I daven for the past year a lady in a wheel chair who is in the convalescent home next door to our shul is brought into the men’s section.
    The home/hospital has a minyan there that is wheel chair accessible with mechitza rather than a balcony like our shul.
    I asked the lady why doesn’t she daven in the home/hosipital & she said the davening there is not what she is used to, as it’s Sephardi/Edot HaMizrach.
    My question is doesn’t there need to be a mechitza put up?
    If I wanted a lady in the men’s section wheel chair or otherwise I would go to a conservative or reform place not an Orthodox shul. I am in a quandary what to do.

    Good question, which I understand your shul has no rabbi to ask! I conferred with HaRav Ya’akov Ariel, Chief Rabbi of Ramat Gan, and he suggested asking the gabbai of the shul to arrange a portable mechitza, for example, on top of the table in front of where the woman sits. In the meantime, he said that you don’t have to leave the shul every time she comes in, which would obviously offend her, for there is a mechitza in the shul, and her being there is considered occasional and temporary, and one may rely on the fact that there are chairs and tables in between her and the men.
    With Love of Israel,
    Rav Ari Shvat

  • Conservative Shul Davening

    2 questions about this

    1. If you are at a conservative shul for a chuppah and all the men davening are frum, can you use the sanctuary to daven?

    2. When the answer stated that conservative rabbis accept those that drive to shul as legitimate colleagues, the Chabad accept those that drive to shul and even give them Aliyah’s. Why is that accepted when it is no good when done by a conservative rabbi?

    Shalom
    1. Rav Soloveitchik, considered by all as relatively liberal, said one is not allowed to attend a chuppah, or even hear a shofar, in a conservative temple or sanctuary, so the rest of the question is also clearly prohibited.
    2. The Conservative “rabbi”, even if he personally may observe Shabbat, sees his fellow Conservative “rabbis” (!) who drive to temple as colleagues and legitimate peers with legitimate opinions, and not as far-removed Jews who need to be brought closer, as Chabad sees those Jews who unfortunately drive on Shabbat. The Conservative rabbinate unfortunately officially declares allowance for halachic desecration of Shabbat in the name of Judaism, which is significantly more halachically illegitimate, and historically severe and different from individuals who allow themselves, as individuals, to do so.
    With Love of Israel!   Rav Ari Shvat

  • interfaith dialogue with christians

    Hi there,

    I’m a Christian who was searching something else and came across this question. I’ve spent five years of my life studying Jewish theology, and it’s enriched my own Christian faith a lot. My goal isn’t to convert anybody or try and change anyone’s mind, but isn’t studying the theology of other faiths a good thing, even if for no other reason than to compare and contrast with one’s own?

    Having a lot of Jewish friends who are largely ignorant of what many Christians actually believe (evidenced, I would say, by the grouping of “Idol Worship and Christianity), I think it would be beneficial to at the very least hear the creed of the Christian faith on its own terms. I can say from my own experience, learning the way that Jews themselves expressed and understood Judaism and permitting them to teach me about their own faith rather than to try and superimpose my own ideas about it was the best exercise I could’ve done.

    Definitely not trying to be rude or confrontational, merely asking: would not both Jew and Christian hearing what each other has to say on their own terms at the very least foster greater friendship and partnership between members of the two (highly related) faiths? I realize that for most of Christian history the majority of Christians haven’t thought this way, and so skepticism is understood and honored as justifiable, but I’m living proof that there are Christians who are willing to learn from you, because we think you have something valuable to give and to offer. I guess I understand if you don’t feel the same way, but I felt like it was worth saying something. Respect and Blessings.

    Hi. It’s great hearing an open-minded gentile who isn’t out to “missionize” or convert Jews. Unfortunately, as long as convincing Jews to convert is a common or even central goal to many Christian groups and clergy throughout history and to this very day (sometimes even veiling their real intentions), I imagine you can understand and respect our policy not to get into confusing differentiations, and prefer a blanket policy of not holding inter-faith dialogue regarding theological issues. We’re not out to convert or convince others, and we expect a similar, tolerant common courtesy. On the other hand, dialogue on political, community, humanitarian or international issues and events are fine, and cooperation of all mankind can help greatly. For example, if you can help us Jews deal with the immoral crackpot Moslem leaders in Iran who not only inconsiderately deny the fact that 6,000,000 Jews were murdered by the Nazis in the Holocaust, but want to actually nuke us and kill another 7,000,000 Jews in modern Israel, it would be greatly appreciated, so we don’t have to do it ourselves and alone. This type of universal brotherhood is a lot more urgent!

  • Lashon Hara in Therapy

    If a person was hurt by someone, can they discuss the incident and speak lashon hara (slander, gossip) about the person with a therapist, especially if the therapist doesn’t know the person and he is obligated to keep all the details of the therapy personal and confidential. Thank you

    Yes, it is clearly allowed in such a situation, especially when the therapist doesn’t know the people involved.
    Rav Ari Shvat.

  • What is Hell?

    Is hell a real place people go after they die? How do I prevent myself from going there?

    The most important thing is to be a good “Godly” person, and not just to act properly in order to get reward or avoid punishment, whether in this world or the world-to-come. Nevertheless, if you’re curious, we have many traditions passed down regarding the world-to-come, Gan Eden (heaven) and “gehinom” (hell). According to all, it’s not a physical place (as other religions may think), but a spiritual one, without bodies, just souls, who come to be perfected or educated in a way they didn’t succeed to do so in this world, the world of free-will. The rabbis picture the world-to-come, like what we would call today a movie theater where video-clips of one’s life are played for each of us, and we get pleasure from our positive acts and are “burning” with embarrassment from our regrettable choices (played simultaneously with what we could have and should have chosen at the time). In that unadulterated world, we can get a deeper and objective understanding of right and wrong, good and bad.
    According to a Chassidic tradition, heaven and hell are really the same place (logical, for in a world where there’s no “place”, we’re all in the same “place”!), just that for one person it’s paradise, and for the other, it’s “boring as hell”. Our soul doesn’t change when we die, but continues exactly as the person we were when we “left off” at the time of death. For someone whose definition of fun is their car, internet, money, computer and smart-phone, when he gets to the world-to-come it’s clearly going to be super-boring, because there is none of the above! On the other hand, somebody who gets pleasure from goodness, Torah study, ideological thought and discussion, love and spirituality- for him that place is Heaven, for he can get constant spiritual pleasure, without worldly distractions like needing to work or sleep, with no disturbances like sickness or pain. A good way to test yourself to see which category you belong to, is to ask yourself honestly: Do I enjoy Shabbat (which is considered a taste of the world-to-come, and where many of the aforementioned pleasures are in fact prohibited) or not? Do I have independent pleasure being with myself (my Godly soul), or do I need outside stimulants and distractions to entertain me? It’s important to stress, that it’s not too late to improve yourself in these fields, to become the type of person you would like to be.
    We don’t know exactly how it will be until we get there, nevertheless, like everything in life, we should utilize these ideas to motivate us towards self-improvement and being better people in this world. With Love of Israel,
    Rav Ari Shvat

  • “Outdated” Mitzvot?

    Dear Rabbi, I received a lengthy e-mail written by a cynical professor who asked questions about the Torah which sometimes appears to be outdated, and would like some answers to fulfill the writings of the ethics of the fathers:ודע מה שתשיב לאפיקורוס ולקדש שם שמים, “know how to answer”. Thank you!

    The issue regarding mitzvot which seem to be outdated, is an old question. In fact, the t’filin found by archeologists at Massada from 2,000 years ago, were not “in style” or seen as “up-to-date” in the gentile world, then either! Were it not for the G-dly commandment, we wouldn’t have dreamt ourselves of wearing these black boxes and straps, even then! The eternal mitzvot are, by definition, above time. In fact, many of the most popular mitzvot today among newly observant intellectual Jews, are those which at first glance, seem outdated. Only after you begin to observe, you’re amazed at the beauty, logic and benefit of these eternal truths. Davka the example which the cynical professor gave of physically separating during the menstrual period, is a classic case in point (many secular couples I’ve married have adopted that, some even eventually becoming totally observant).
    Regarding the mitzvot which seem to contradict modern morality, we must remember that “eternity” means not only that the Torah must apply to the modern world, but also the reverse: that it had to be relevant 3,300 years ago, as well! In a both morally and technically primitive world, before the cotton gin and tractor, whose economy was based upon agriculture and slaves, slavery was not seen by anyone as a moral problem at the time of the giving of the Torah. In a period where it was legal among gentiles to kill one’s slave, in order to be relevant and slowly raise the level of their primitive morality, the most the Torah could, and did command, was to treat slaves in a relatively high and honorable way. Our rabbis summarize those laws, that “He who bought a slave, has acquired a master for himself”. It was davka a result of these laws that mankind (first Judaism, and then Christianity, and eventually the entire modern world), slowly but surely began to see slavery in a negative light, until its eventual abolishment in most countries. The Torah doesn’t obligate slavery, yet begrudgingly allowed it, when it was necessary and morally accepted and economically necessary, within exacting moral constrictions.
    A good analogy is that it would be an exaggerated demand for the Torah to prohibit eating meat even today, although it’s clearly more moral to be a vegetarian. The many “hints” to this affect (e.g. slaughtering painlessly, many detailed halachot which define the prohibition to hurt animals, not making a “shehecheyanu” bracha or even saying “titchadesh” on leather…) slowly and eventually raise mankind until we will be abhorred with the concept, and will voluntarily mature to be vegetarians, returning to the pre-Noah ideal. The Torah obligates only the minimum, and to “jump the gun” and “over-obligate” morality before its proper time, would be artificial, irrelevant and accordingly, counterproductive. In consequent generations, the rabbis and mankind are meant to continuously add additional obligations, at the pace of advancement of mankind, continuing the direction of the “arrow” which the Torah “shot” long ago.
    In addition, we must remember that the same G-d who created our moral “conscience”, is the same One who gave us the Torah, and is the same One who also slowly guides history. In the example of vegetarianism, the “historical” G-d reveals, at the appropriate time, modern technology (e.g. inventing meat-substitutes, refrigeration…), dietetics (encouraging vegetarianism), hygiene (we are more and more disgusted by blood…), military weapons (wars fought today from afar, by pushing buttons, make us more sensitive and squeamish regarding any killing), and even internet and transportation (enabling universal NGO’s to function and publicize their humanist and animal-loving agendas), etc. So too, that same “historical” G-d “vanished” Amelek naturally, because that’s not the obligation which should be pre-occupying us at this stage of mankind! Similarly, explains Rav Kook, it’s not a coincidence that we don’t have the death-penalty or animal sacrifice today, because it’s not in our best moral interest at this time. Accordingly, G-d removed these topics from the practical agenda, through technical, halachic and historical obstacles.
    In addition, the oral law which is “built in” to the essence of the written law (Dvarim 17), is exactly for this purpose, obligating rabbis to explain mitzvot and make them relevant in each and every respective generation. More than 1,000 years ago, the rabbis basically abolished yibum, and today, the G-d of “history” made even chalitza essentially obsolete (currently, couples don’t marry unless they want children, modern methods of fertility can solve 95% of the problems, and men don’t die as young as they used to). Nevertheless, if by chance, there is ever any mitzvah which may truly seem “out-of-date”, the Sanhedrin (Supreme Rabbinical Court) is almost always empowered to alter it, either temporarily or long-range. If Israel has already returned to the Land, revived our State, language, and army, then reviving the Sanhedrin should be relatively easy. For more elaboration, see my 2 lectures on this topic on this blog.
    With Love of Israel, Rabbi Ari Shvat

  • Secular newspapers and their pictures

    Rabbi,I have a problem. I enjoy knowing what’s going on in the world and in Israel. That’s why I read ’Yisroel hayom' and simular newspapers.Unfortunately,I quite often come across inappropriate images of women. Does the fact that there are such pictures forebid me from reading these papers?After all my intention is to read the news and not to see these stuyot?Thanks for your time.

    Shalom,
    It’s definitely important to know what’s going on with Am Yisrael, especially because we’re in the center of the world news so often, and we must know what we can do to help (e.g. if there’s danger of war, if we should apply political pressure on the Prime Minister of Israel or President of the U.S., or volunteering to look for a missing child, donating money or clothing, if there’s a fire, etc.), and also what to daven (pray) for. For this reason, the Netziv and many other rabbanim regularly read news journals. On the other hand, one isn’t allowed to do a mitzvah through doing something wrong (“mitzvah haba’a al y’dei aveira”). Even if you are accustomed to looking away when seeing immodest dress in the street, it’s almost impossible to avoid when your task at hand is to purposely look at the paper. In addition, the editors and advertisers deliberately choose especially attractive and provocative pictures, so it’s even more problematic. Listening to the radio news is one solution. Even better, thank G-d, today there are religious or kosher radio stations, websites and newspapers like Arutz Sheva and Makor Rishon, which are fine in this regard, and hopefully also regarding lashon hara (slandering), which is no less problematic, often even more (here, the radio doesn't help, except for its brevity!). Regarding the laws of lashon hara and the news, see my article “Newspapers and Reporting- Mitzva or Prohibition?”, which can be found through Google.
    With Love of Israel,
    Rav Ari Shvat

  • Woman as business partner

    Is there any halachic/hashkafic parameter that prevents a married man from starting a new business with a single women. The pair would have to work closely for long hours and would share experiences of accomplishment, success and failure throughout their working relationship. This seems inappropriate to me but I was wondering if I am over-reacting.

    Without a doubt, it is clearly wrong, both hashkafa and halacha-wise, for any man, especially a married one, to have a close relationship with a woman, other than his wife. The Shulchan Aruch states explicitly: “one must distance himself from women very, very much!” (Even HaEzer 21, 1), and working alone, side by side in a pleasant and friendly atmosphere (as a work-environment should be), is clearly not “distancing”, and surely not “very, very much”. This is not just a suggestion for a happy marriage, but an actual prohibition. Even working alone together with a female secretary for long hours, is a problem (even if they are careful in observing the laws of yichud, never to be alone in a room, just a man and a woman, if there’s no probability of somebody else entering by surprise), so how much more so, one shouldn’t have a partnership as equals, working closely for many hours. Inevitably, part of that special man-woman relationship and chemistry, the joking, laughing and unique friendship which should be totally reserved for one’s soul-mate, will be “spent” on another, “competing” woman, and will undoubtedly come at the expense of his spouse. In fact, I heard from someone close to the police department, that they have a problem dealing with many “affairs” which arose out of having a man and woman on duty together, sometimes, when at least one of them was married.
    A happy marriage and healthy family life, is a lot more important than making money, especially when there are many kosher ways of making a living, like finding a male business partner. May the zchut of shalom bayit grant you parnassa tova in the best possible way!
    With Love of Israel,
    Rav Ari Shvat